Comments on: I Never “Realized”

By: Cousins « Potted Frog

Cousins « Potted Frog — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 04:21:58 +0000

[...] were a little different. I will not go into that in detail here because I did quite a bit in this post. What I will say is that neither my brother nor I were as excited to go visit those cousins, but it [...]

By: Piedmont Perspective

Piedmont Perspective — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 14:54:13 +0000

Such a heart wrenching story and so beautifully written. I can’t imagine the feelings it dredged up while you were writing. Things were so different back then. At least society has finally come to realize that mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. This is a very powerful post, Louise. Thank you for sharing another glimpse into your life!

By: Klaus

Klaus — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 20:12:13 +0000

Though thing to swallow, and even more – a tough nut to crack. But rest assured – there is nothing you need to blame yourself for.
Kids are not suspicious by default – as we learned to become as adults. Even if they would have mentioned abuse, what could you have made of it – as a kid – especially in those times. Things like that were generally accepted taboo’s, when we were kids – they were just a “non-issue”.
Questioning yourself is more or less being pretty unfair to yourself, because you see it through your “now” eyes, not those of the child you were.
Excellent Post!
Cheers, Klaus

By: Louis la Vache

Louis la Vache — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 10:06:30 +0000

A very thoughtful – and thought-provoking post, Louise.

It brings to mind similar situations “Louis” has encountered. “Louis” cannot understand why any adult would ever abuse a child, but it is all too common.

By: Pietro

Pietro — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 14:03:24 +0000

Louise, returning on your very impressive post, I want to say that very often we cannot see difficulties and troubles of people.
As regards my post “sundial”, it is a photograph (not a painting) of a house in Valsusa which has this recent sundial created in the year 2000.

By: Webradio

Webradio — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:18:44 +0000

there are a lot of things we don’t realise about people, we are often too quick to pass judgment !
yes, I have “piqué” this comment, but it is right…
See You later…

By: Seamus

Seamus — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 11:53:29 +0000

Sometimes our clearest vision comes way after the fact.

Thanks for stopping by – there is a lot more to come with that series.

By: Pietro

Pietro — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:37:06 +0000

This is a very significant post, Louise.
You are right, indeed: there are many many things we do not realize about people. Even if we have a long life experience.

By: maria verivaki

maria verivaki — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:32:07 +0000

you’re an amazing person to cook for others apart from family, louise, that’s a real feat these days

By: Jennifer H

Jennifer H — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 05:26:14 +0000

I wouldn’t have wanted you to act different from what was organic and natural. You were a child, too, and not responsible for things you couldn’t know.

You should know, though, that my memories of the time that I spent with you and your brother, at our house or yours, were some of my favorite childhood memories, and I always looked forward to those times. I never realized that it was so unpleasant, and I’m sorry that you had to experience that for all those years. Sue did cast a wide net, didn’t she?

As for the rest of it…we’ve all made a stand at different times, when we were old enough to have our say, and you’ve certainly done that on that side of the family. And I’m very glad that our kids won’t have to experience those women in the way that we had to.